Coaching a Client to Purge
Today I did a practice project with a friend. She wanted to purge a lot from her closet, and we did end up SORTing about four kitchen bags out of her closet, but I still felt as if I was not coaching her enough through the purging process. In other words...I kept noticing how she talked herself into keeping thing that could have easily been offloaded, and this made me feel as if I was not doing my job!
I did find that asking her questions helped. For example, when she said, "but this might come in handy", I asked "How long do you think it will be before it comes in handy?" She said, "You are right! I will never use it! Let's toss it." Another time, I asked, "Which would you like more right now-more space for things you now you want to keep....or using space for something you don't know when you will use?" That was also effective.
What are other questions I could ask? Questions seem to be a really powerful way to help clients make better decisions without feeling like they are being forced to change or let go of things they don't really want to.